I’m about to hit the big THREE ZERO, and I’ll be lying to myself if I say that I’m not feeling any pressure at all.
It may seem that I’m fine, it may seem I’m happy but believe me I’m screaming with all my frustrations inside. A woman my age with no savings, in debt with multiple credit card bills, no investments, no accomplishments, no clear career path and no promotion in sight, no wedding or a child expected any time soon, no nothing - na da- zilch - zero fruitful present and future in sight.
People — especially woman my age (some younger) already have everything that I don’t have. A stable career, a Master’s degree, own house and lot, car, business, and a family of their own. They say that everyone has their own pace, we just need to trust our own timing but is it wrong that I feel sad, frustrated and depressed because I can’t seem to get my life towards the correct path?
I know my mom thinks that it’s okay that I’m not yet married, that I don’t have a child but I want to settle down and have a child of my own. What hurts me most is that I may not be able to bear one whenever I want and decide to because of my condition and it’s frustrating.
I can’t settle down because I still want to be financially stable first and to be able to pay off any debts, I don’t want to burden my future husband about it. I can’t settle down because I can’t even see that my boyfriend is ready as well even though I know how much he wanted for us to be together. I can’t settle down until I see and know that my mom and sister are settled on their own.
I really wanted to be independent, I wanted to be on my own. When will I be able to experience that? When I’m old and grey-haired? When I’m no longer in my child bearing age? When I no longer have the strength to explore things on my own?
I want to change my future, I want my life to have a direction but I don’t know how to. No matter how many self help tips from those “famous” life counselors my mom listens to, I’m sorry but it doesn’t help at all. They all seem like pressuring you to be someone that you know yourself you’re not, to be this frustrating someone that for them is the ideal matured person they want you to be, to be someone the society dictates you to be.
I envy people who knows what they want in life. Those who knows what career they want, who knows the things they are passionate about. I’ve been working for almost a decade now and I still don’t know what I really want and where I’m heading. I tried switching careers from being a Journalism major -which I wasn’t even able to practice- to being in IT, I thought I’ll be happy but NO I’m certainly not. I tried taking up a Master’s degree, I didn’t even last a semester. It seems I’m still on a zigzag road and the sight is blurry.
I’m about to hit the big THREE ZERO but still nowhere to go.